Relationships

What kind of relationship do you have with your body ?

Is it a friendly one ? Do you say things like, "I love my hair."

Is it a suspicious one ? Do say things like, "My back is killing me."

Is it a judgmental one? Do say things like, "This is my bad shoulder."

Is the way you feel about your body effected by what others say ?

Is it effected by how you see bodies displayed in the media ?

Do you feel old when someone say, "You look really tired."

When someone compliments you, do you contradict the person ?

Do feel fatter when you see a thin model ?

Do you experience body pleasure as intensely as you experience body pain ?

Do you spend more time describing to others how you are in discomfort than you do telling them what you physically enjoy ?

What if you took a fresh look at your body ? What if you challenged the personal assumptions that you or others make about your body ? What if you unconditionally accepted your body as a friend ? Even if you don't look like the bodies portrayed in advertising. What if you examined the language that you use to describe your body ?

By thinking and talking more in the first person, rather than referring to your body as an object you could dramatically change the way you relate to yourself. By being your body rather talking about it, you can have more authentic experiences.

Can you see how different it would be if you said, "I am killing myself." rather than "My back is killing me." ? Do you see how your responses and choices would be seen differently ? Compartmentalizing your experiences can only lead to disassociating from your power and fostering a victim mentality. Sure, it's scary to take responsibility for your own life, but it is the only way to put yourself into the driver's seat of your own life. And quite simply put you and your body are not separate entities. As you think, so will physically feel. Your physical sensations are equally expressed in fabric of your thoughts. You can choose freely from life's menu or take whatever comes along.

Allowing the focus of your experiences to broaden to become more holistic (including all of your five senses, your mind in both thought and emotion and the fullness of your spirit} invites a larger more fulfilling experience of the moment at hand.

When someone touches you, you will be touched completely and richly spiritually, emotionally and physically.

When you think about someone with your mind, you will more likely also experience empathy in your heart.

When you smile you can feel a vibrant, sensual glow and flow beyond your face into the fullness of your body and spirit.

By expressing yourself as a whole person, when you pray or send loving thoughts to another, you can also feel the warm body sensations of being a loving spirit present with them.

A simple test of the quality of your relationship with yourself is this question. If you talked about a friend of yours the way you talk about yourself, would they still be your friend ? A gauge of the wholeness of your experience is to image each aspect of yourself as if they attending a party. If some part of you seems quiet and not participating, draw them out. For instance if you haven't heard from your heart recently, draw it into the conversation. If you feel out of touch with your body, move playfully as if you were asking your body to dance.

What do you have to risk in being yourself more holistically rather than own fragmented parts of yourself ?

Only realizing yourself in a more conscious and connected relationships with all that is offered in our generous Universe. Rather than just sticking your toe into the ocean of life, you can feel the waves playfully touching your whole being. Be whole and enjoy !